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Did 2020 make you lose a sense of your identity, or was it more recently, after reflecting on your past experiences?
At the beginning of 2021, I started to have an existential crisis with myself. I no longer knew who I was as an individual and started to ask myself these questions: who is the person beyond a university student, what do I stand for as an individual, and what makes me Kyra?
Lately, I’ve seen a lot of information on how to reinvent yourself, which involves becoming a different version of yourself. However, during this process, many individuals (including myself) fall into the trap of believing that we can swish a wand and become a new person.
Including changing your complete physical appearance, in terms of buying a new wardrobe, wearing make-up, or having plastic surgery.
However, this is far from being the truth.
I believe that your true self has always been there, but it was waiting for the right moment to reveal itself to you. This is because your past experiences shape this true self that is deep within you.
In today’s post, I wanted to share how I’ve been reclaiming my identity by following these three steps. It’s important to note that this is not a quick fix, it takes time, dedication, patience and trust within yourself to reclaim your identity.
How to reclaim your identity
Understand why you’ve lost your identity
Before starting your journey, you must understand why you’ve lost yourself along the way. This is because it will allow you to find the main or multiple causes of your loss of identity.
Ask yourself these questions:
- Reflect on the past 3 months: What experiences have you witnessed or endure? (The good and the bad)
- Which of these experiences stick out to you the most?
- What was it about that experience that caused your distress?
I would recommend writing this set of questions in a journal so you can refer back to them throughout your journey.
Rediscover your true self
If you are a regular on the blog, you would’ve read my blog post on how to find your true self. This blog post included useful self-discovery activities including finding your Dharma Archetype, Myer-Biggs and Ikigai.
These self-discovering activities had allowed me to get to know myself again, and rediscover the values, beliefs and ideas that were always a part of me.
For example, learning more about my Dharma Archetype reminded me that I am someone who is always reinventing myself in my career. This explains why at the beginning of big milestones, including launches, I question my sense of identity and purpose.
You can read more about Dharma Archetypes on my true self blog post here.
However, there is also another activity that I would recommend implementing into your journey. This activity involves reintegrating both new and old fun activities into your schedule. This could include picking up new activities, such as knitting and clay making, and reintroducing your old favourite activities, such as writing and painting.
A part of rediscovering yourself involves trying out new activities that you’ve never participated in before. Once you have participated in new activities, it will allow you to learn more about your personality traits, belief system, ideas and values.
For myself, I’ve picked up the new activity crocheting. Although it is a slow-paced activity to what I am used to, it has allowed me to understand how much I am a determined, patient and gentle individual. This is because crocheting requires having the patience and technique to individually crochet each strand of the yarn.
Implement self-care into your daily routine
Something which I’ve begun to reimplement into the daily routine is self-care.
During my exam season, I started to neglect self-care from my daily routine. This contributed to further stress on my physical and mental health. As a result, after experiencing this pain, I began to lose my sense of identity even more.
You are told in society that you should connect with your masculine energy, which consists of having a hustle mindset. However, this mindset does not allow you to become in tune with your true self.
The Law of Gender states that there is no superiority between the masculine and feminine energy you consume. In order to stay in tune with your true self, you must nurture both of these different energies, whether you are male, female or non-binary.
I suggest reading MGB Mindfulness blog post the 12 universal laws here.
Below is an infographic showing how to balance both your masculine and feminine energies.
What have you discovered about yourself whilst reclaiming your identity?
In summary, reclaiming back your identity is a long process that requires trust and patience within yourself. What 2020 has taught both of us is the importance of staying true to yourself, and looking after yourself; mentally, emotionally, mentally and physically.
I encourage you to read my blog post on how to find your true self. This will give you more inspiration on the activities to implement into your life. You read the blog post here.