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Do you know that 80% of your limiting beliefs aren’t even true?
Yes, those anxious, demoralising and uncomfortable thoughts aren’t even true, but without learning specific skills, these beliefs can become barriers to your dream life.
Your mindset sets the foundation for your journey, as your mind is a powerful tool which can manifest both physical and emotional experiences.
Before I started Kyrazella, I dealt with limiting beliefs, including ‘I am too quiet to be a blogger’ and ‘I am not worthy of success.’
It was my mindset which became a barrier to my success. However, once I learnt the tools and skills required to challenge these beliefs, everything around me changed.
I was no longer controlled by my limiting beliefs, and I became more confident in my abilities, as both a student and a blogger.
The truth is overcoming your limiting beliefs will take time, dedication and hard work, but I believe you’re capable of overcoming these beliefs, once you have learnt the right tools and skills required.
So, in this post, I will share what are limiting beliefs and five ways to overcome them.
This is the first blog post in my Challenge your Negative Mindset Series, whereby I have created a Free 5 Day Email Course to guide you through. You can start your mindset journey today for free here.
What are limiting beliefs, and how to overcome them?
What are limiting beliefs?
Limiting beliefs are negative beliefs which you believe are true about yourself. These limiting beliefs become barriers preventing you from taking action on your goals and intentions.
Here’s an example of one limiting belief I had at the beginning of my blogging journey:
‘I’m too quiet and awkward to be a successful blogger.’
Yes, I truly believed that my personality defined my success.
Many bloggers in the community are introverts deep-down, and when I started blogging, I believed that this was a limitation.
It wasn’t until I read ‘The Power of Now’ by Eckhart Tolle when I was introduced to this quote by Rene Descartes.
‘I think, therefore I am.’
This quote resonated with me during the early stages of my blogging career. This is because I never knew that your mind is a powerful tool, which can result in your limiting beliefs becoming a reality.
For instance, when I was a sales assistant, I resented my part-time job. This was due to both the repetitive tasks and speaking to ‘not so kind customers.’
I dreaded waking up in the morning to go to work, and my limiting beliefs included- ‘nobody likes me because I’m too quiet’ and ‘I dislike this job.’
As a result, these limiting beliefs became true, as these manifested into mean customers and not creating deep work relationships.
Although I regretted having this mindset, I’m thankful that I went through this as it helped me to discover the book, ‘The Power of Now.’
How to identify limiting beliefs
Before you learn the key steps required to overcome your limiting beliefs, first you must identify your limiting beliefs.
Ask yourself these following questions:
- How would you describe yourself in 3 words?
- How would you describe the world around you?
- Do you believe you will achieve your goals, and why?
These 3 questions will help you to identify your negative thought patterns.
For example, you may answer the first question with ‘lazy, passionate, and quiet.’ Although you said ‘passionate,’ your other two answers can be seen as a limiting belief.
I have created a free digital worksheet with these three questions and two more bonus questions. You can download your free worksheet here.
How to overcome your limiting beliefs
Make peace with your past
Did you know that limiting beliefs are formed from your past mistakes? Yes, your experiences from five years ago play an important part in your negative mindset.
For example, if you had experienced bullying in the past, then your limiting belief may be ‘I am worthless.’
It’s important to make peace with the past. This is because every negative experience leaves behind ‘residue’ which can have a serious impact on you in the future.
As Eckhart Tolle says in the ‘Power of Now,’ pain occupies your body and mind, resulting in anything to trigger that pain, such as innocent remarks.
Here are five steps which I have helped me to make peace with the past:
- Observe your mind: You can easily do this by journaling for a week or writing your limiting beliefs throughout the day.
- Select one limiting belief to focus on first.
- What experiences reinforced the limiting beliefs?
- How did these experiences make you feel?
- Focus on the present: Is this limiting belief true for right now?
This five-step process has allowed me to work through my limiting beliefs and become more aware.
If you would like a digital copy of this step-by-step, you can download the free worksheet here.
Accept what you can control
Mia from She Dreams Daily makes a great point, ‘focus on the areas of your life that are within your control.’
This is important because focusing on things you cannot control will result in spending less time in the present moment.
As you know already, I’m a big advocate for focusing on the present moment, and if you continue to focus on the future, then you will miss the amazing things right now.
Here are examples of the things you can control:
- Money mindset
- The people who influence you
- Taking action on your goals and intentions
Here are examples of the things you cannot control:
- Whether someone likes or dislikes you (even after you’ve made an effort)
- The health of others
- Real-life events, such as accidents, pandemic, etc.
I wanted to give this list not to scare you, but to make you realise some things are out of your control. However, there are some things which you can control, such as your mindset and productivity. So, that’s a big plus.
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Surround yourself with those who inspire you
The people you surround yourself with reflect your mindset.
These people can include your friends, family, social media followings and so on.
It’s important to surround yourself with those who have similar values and beliefs as you, otherwise, you will begin to feel that you are not aligned with your authentic self. As a result, this will create limiting beliefs, such as ‘good things don’t happen to me’ or ‘I am ugly.’
After leaving Sixth Form, I noticed a shift in my mindset. This was due to changing those with who I surrounded myself with. For instance, I read more personal development books, listen to podcasts, and surrounded myself with friends and family who made me feel confident and empowered.
Instead, of having limiting beliefs based on my personality, I had positive beliefs about who I am as a person. This helped me to be where I am today, and I am thankful for the people around me.
Here are a few personal development books and podcasts that made me who I am today:
- Make it Happen – Jordanna Levin.
- The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle.
- The Highest Self Podcast – Sahara Rose.
- The Lavendaire Lifestyle – Lavendaire.
Have a social media detox
You’ve probably heard of a social media detox from well-known Youtubers, such as Matt D’Avella and Thomas Frank.
A social media detox is when you take a break from social media for an extended period of time; whether it’s 7 days or 30 days.
There many benefits of having a social media detox including:
- An improvement in your self-esteem.
- A positive outlook on life.
- Appreciating the present moment.
During my gap year, I had started decreasing my time on social media. This was because social media created a false reality in my mind, including that all influencers are having great lives and that’s something I should aspire to be.
As a result, this added to my negative mindset, filled with beliefs such as ‘nothing good ever happens to me,’ and ‘my stomach is undesirable.’
After having a social media detox, my negative mindset improved greatly, resulting in me spending more time on my self-care and starting my blogging career.
If your unable to have a social media detox due to having a business online. I would highly recommend limiting your social media to two platforms and having time limits on social media.
You can easily do this on apps such as Forest and Freedom, or you can switch that particular setting on an IPhone.
Talk to someone
If you’re unable to overcome your limiting beliefs, I would suggest speaking to a therapist. This is because a therapist can guide you through the step-by-step process one on one.
Talking to a therapist is something which I had done in the past, and it helps to speak to someone outside of your social circle.
Overcoming your limiting beliefs will take time, dedication and hard work, and it will not be an easy road.
However, once you have learnt both the tools and skills required to overcome your limiting beliefs, you will see an immediate improvement in both your outlook and journey through life.
If you would like to join your fellow community on this challenge, I have created a Free 5 Day Email Course to help you challenge your limiting beliefs. Be sure to sign up for the Free Email Course here or below.